Published on February 24th, 2012 | by tomkolovos2
Behind the Music and Oprah’s Next Chapter: What Killed Whitney Houston?
_________________________________This story makes people so uncomfortable–and me so angry– that I can’t resist reprinting it here.
Whitney Houston was in a lesbian relationship, which for the sake of the God she loved, her family and her career decided to abandon and marry Bobby Brown. It was an open secret in the gay community and within Whitney’s own family.
Do you think that may have something to do with why, despite her phenomenal talent and success, she spiraled into drug use and abuse?
And the fact that when I bring this up it enrages people, especially women of color, revolts me. How does the lying serve Whitney’s legacy? You see how well it served her in life, yes?
Whitney died in the name of serving a God she thought despised gay people, in the name of protecting her career from homophobes, in the name of all the women of color who go to Church to hear homophobic ministers preach hate while their men are on the DL and then come home and infect them with HIV and make HIV a top killer of sexually active women of color.
It revolts me.
And it revolts me that all the people at that funeral who spoke knew. And faked it anyway. They descended like vultures to promote their careers, not Whitney’s legacy.
Whitney was bullied by her God, her Church, her family and her record label. Clive Davis was her pimp.
Don’t shoot the messenger cause I don’t want The Enquirer–or Jet– shooting a picture of me in my casket.
At least not before I go on CNN with Soledad O’Brien, Anderson Cooper and Don Lemmon (and my girl Zoraida Sambolin) to discuss all of this. (Soledad and Holly Robinson Peete are mad at me on Twitter today. Just check my feed. Soledad: ask Anderson what an “open secret” is.)
Unless of course Piers Morgan hacks my phone, in which case we’ll just do it on Nancy Grace. That way she can append her lunatic “who murdered Whitney?” comments by letting me restate the question rationally: did internalized homophobia kill Whitney Houston?”
How do I know, Ms O’Brien, anything beyond my own life? Perhaps because I read and I listen. And not from a teleprompter or a wire in my ear. I am not mean because you are uninformed, Ms. Peete. Don’t be throwing shade my way.
Now you can wince.
All you like.
And perhaps because I know Whitney Houston performed at Chelsey Pier during the 1999 Gay Pride Parade. Piers can hack into celebrity phones but not YouTube on his iPad? Sad.
OOPS. It turns out Viacom removed the clip from YouTube claiming ownership of a public taping. Hmmm. Maybe I underestimated Piers.
What you can’t see, Soledad, is Whitney telling the crowd she wasn’t gay and didn’t necessarily approve of gays. But she was there, anyway! Do you see how deeply conflicted and deluded this woman was?
Ask Anderson. He was probably there too.
Linda Johnson Rice, of Johnson Publishing –which owns Ebony and Jet magazines–reportedly wrote a very touching and personal tribute for this week’s Jet magazine. Apparently she was so close to the family and Whitney that she had no clue Whitney was, um, a lesbian.
Tom, you say, she wasn’t writing to appease some gay political agenda. Or to please you.
She was writing out of respect.
Respect? This from a woman whose father made a fortune regularly publishing pictures of dead black people in their caskets in the same Jet magazine that she now writes the tribute?
Are you kidding me?
I may be white, but I ain’t stupid, Ms Rice.
Don’t pee on me and tell me it’s raining. I remember you all back when your wigs matched your furs, as I like to say. And don’t even start with the false outrage about Whitney’s picture in her casket in the Enquirer. Sisters, I’ve got your number. If you’re outraged, it’s because you got scooped, not because you hold some high moral ground.
I’m tired of women of color giving lip service to gay rights–if that–but deferring to their intolerant Churches, when push comes to shove. Why do you think Oprah never asked Whitney about being a lesbian in the interview she was rehawking on her dismal OWN ? She pretended for decades John Travolta isn’t gay to all of her viewers when she damn well knows he is. You expected Oprah to be honest with Whitney? Or herself? Or you?
The leaders of the black community better own up to their homophobic constituencies lest they be on the receiving end of a story like this one: Hairstylist Refuses to Cut New Mexico Governor’s Hair Over Stance on Gay Marriage. You read that right.
Governor Susana Martinez has lost a hair stylist thanks to her position against gay marriage.
Antonio Darden, a popular stylist who runs Antonio’s Hair Studio in Santa Fe, said he cut Martinez’ hair three times, but that’s it – unless she changes her mind about gay marriage.
Before you get your your hair–or weave –or whatever hair raising experience you maybe having right now–all up in my face, please remember that the man who coordinated the entire Martin Luther King March on Washington was a gay black man, largely erased from black history and the black press because it was an inconvenient truth.
His name is Bayard Rustin. The DuSable Museum of African American History in Chicago is showing the documentary film of his life and times as part of a series called Honoring Our Past and Empowering Our Future Film Festival. The documentary is called Brother Outsider: The Life of Bayard Rustin.
Bet you didn’t know any of that, did you? Didn’t think so. Now you do. Thank God it didn’t take the DuSable Museum the same amount of time it took the Catholic Church to pardon Galileo after it condemned him in the Inquisition in 1633 for asserting that the earth revolved around the sun. For those of you unfamiliar with the case, the Vatican apologized 360 years later. In 1992, when Pope John Paul II got a clue. Easy to remember if you us that mnemonic trick.
So before it comes to taking us a whole week of “Anderson Cooper 360” to understand the hypocrisy involved here, please read the first hand account below from the Daily Mail in which the person who knows spilled everything. Yes, I know the Daily Mail isn’t the most reputable media outlet in most cases—but they were in this case, since no American media outlet would touch the story–which as I said, is an open secret, Anderson.
CNN got 5 million viewers for the funeral service. How many do you think they would have got if they trafficked in the truth? The family built a dyke unbreachably wide with deceit around the church in which she was both discovered and ultimately discarded.
If it meant going along with any disregard for journalism, CNN was all too happy to stand back and watch it fill with 5 million teardrops. And you thought all the lazy, dishonest journalism went on over at FOX?
In that aforementioned Dan Savage special, someone told him that “it doesn’t get better; you get stronger.”
Not only is that my own personal experience, but it’s the God’s honest truth. Unfortunately that was not Whitney’s God’s truth but, then again, the road to Hell is paved with sad inventions.
Don’t you agree Mr. Lemmon?
(If you don’t please don’t give my phone number to Piers. He loves sad inventions.)
Tom Kolovos is EIC of aControlledSubstance.com and doesn’t watch CNN for infotainment.
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